Maternity Leave Watch List

Let’s face it newborns are cute but they are incredibly boring.  Here is a list of shows that got me through when I was craving adult interaction.  It also helped for the times when all you REALLY have to pee but you don’t want to risk putting down your sweet angel because nobody should wake a sleeping baby.  (I have stared the ones that you cannot watch around children, newborns sure they can’t see further that 10 inches from their face.)

  1. Game of Thrones*
  2. Parenthood
  3. How to Get Away With Murder*
  4. Glee
  5. Breaking Bad*
  6. Dexter*
  7. Married at First Sight
  8. Grey’s Anatomy
  9. Odd Mom Out
  10. Gossip Girl
  11. Lost
  12. Friends

Ergobaby carrier review

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Ergo baby Original Carrier

I got the ergobaby carrier as a gift at a baby shower.  I was happy because I knew that wearing a baby can be super useful to be able to get things done and have your hands free when you have a little one.  With my son my hubby and I had used a Baby Bjorne and a Moby Wrap. We liked the baby Bjorne because it was easy to put on.  At the time I didn’t even know than the ergobaby carrier existed.

The Moby Wrap we didn’t like because it took awhile to get a hang of how to tie it.  Plus you can’t really prevent the wrap dragging the floor when you tie it which just bothered me because it felt like it was getting dirty and then that fabric was touching baby.

Picture below for comparison purposes.  I have not reviewed the Baby Bjorne but we do like it and it was our go to for our son.

Original Baby Bjorne
Original Baby Bjorne

 

I say all that to be able to really review the ergobaby carrier.

I really like the way it looks.  It has more style.  Also the padding makes it really comfortable to wear.  It also has a little fabric flap that can be used to cover the babies head.  The fabric snaps in place and can be used to protect the babies head from the sun or to block the babies view of bright lights/distractions when in the carrier.

I dislike the instructions.  They are just a series of pictures that my husband and I could not figure out.  Luckily there was a video on YouTube that we could watch.  It took a couple views but then we got the hang of it.  Also, for anyone that has limited range of motion (I have limited range from a shoulder surgery) it can be hard to hook the back buckle by yourself. I had to really adjust and loosen the straps so that I could actually wear it.

The biggest disappointment was that if you purchase the carrier in order to use it with an infant you have to purchase an infant insert which is pretty pricey after also purchasing the carrier itself.  I wish the insert came with the carrier.  Also it just was a pain to want to use it and discover that you need another piece to use it.  The insert is only needed for babies under 12 lbs or under four months.  There is more specific guidelines on when to use the insert provided in the instructions.

Ergo Baby infant insert
Ergo Baby infant insert

We wanted to be able to use the carrier way sooner than four months so we did purchase the insert.  We chose the mesh insert because our baby gets sweaty easily.

With all that said…

We LOVE it!  Including baby!  Money well spent!

Serious my little one loves it.  She is a little over one month old and she usually falls asleep in it within minutes of wearing it.  She falls asleep in the Baby Bjorne too however I can sit down with her because her legs are out and she knows.  With the ergo her legs are held tight (frog-like to your body) and are inside the carrier so she doesn’t know and after a while I can sit down and relax while she sleeps.  I don’t have to explain to any parent how much that little bit of time to recoup is worth.  We will use the both of our carriers but while our little one is small we will probably use the ergo more.

Disclaimer: I was not solicited to write this review.  This is this mama’s honest opinion.

Dish Diaster

After desperately needing clean silverware, I loaded up the dishwasher and even went the extra mile to make sure it had rinse-aid.

Four hours later.

Open the dishwasher and grab a fork so I can eat a meal to discover that I never told the dishwasher to actually run.

I blame wonder weeks!

If you don’t know about wonder weeks it’s the time periods when your baby goes through big developmental milestones. This equals cranky babies that don’t sleep, eat, or play well.

Postpartum: Healing after a second degree tear

So you have had your little one and your labor and delivery was a little rougher than anticipated and you’re looking for more information on something that mom’s never tell you about…the less that glamorous recovery period after-birth.

First off I am not a doctor so this is just my experience after a very quick active phase of labor about 35 mins and baby E made her way into the world.  My birth was all natural which was semi-intentional.  It that, all natural was part of my birth plan – however when shit got real and the pain hit all at once…I was totally asking for drugs but wouldn’t give it to me because it was too late my baby was here.

Needless to say from the title of my posts…the quick labor did a number on me.  I had a second degree tear and something else the OB used a word that is unknown to me and I was too scared and tired to ask.  It took close to an hour to stitch me up and I would say I was in the 20+ stitches range.

I never thought that my birth would be quite like it was.  Second baby and I was still surprised.  Luckily, before birth I did prepare myself for some damage by buying the following items listed below (moms who were brave enough to share there stories swore by them).

Things purchased pre-baby and yes this really hurt on the inside to buy them but luckily everything was available on Amazon.

  1. A big pack of depends
  2. Tucks pads
  3. Mama’s bottom spray
  4. Dermaplast
  5. Maxi pads aka thunderpads
  6. Perineal ice packs
  7. Stool softners

The hospital should supply you with the following:

  1. A squirt bottle (However after I got home I ordered a 3-pack off Amazon because having to fill the bottle up constantly before I could pee while my baby was crying to be fed was no bueno)
  2. Perineal ice packs (take the ones from the hospital but if you have a significant tear you will want more – I honestly had to order them more than once as my recovery was rough
  3. Mesh panties
  4. Thunder pads
  5. A Sitz bath
  6. Demaplast (depends on hospital – mine gave it to me but I took a bottle to the hospital just in case)

Also note if they offer you something after delivery for pain take it!  They offered me 600mg ibuprofen and regular Tylenol that I took around the clock (I took it around the clock for at least 3 weeks).  Believe me you don’t want the pain catching up to you. Technically the hospital offered me Tylenol-3 but that’s not my scene so….

So the reason I’m writing this is that hospitals tend to not tell you a whole lot about what to expect when you get home or what is normal for recovery.  They said something like if you bleed more than quarter size clots or run a fever you should come in…great super helpful…NOT!

So here is what I experienced along with a lot of ladies on baby center…and yes everyone is different so if you heal faster that’s awesome.  I’m happy for you but really jealous to where we almost can’t be friends.

Recovery Timeline

At the hospital

At the hospital I thought I can get up and move around this is great.  I had a c-section with my first baby so just being able to get up and go to the bathroom fairly easily was a real win the first day.  I used my squirt bottle and remember thinking how can I pee out this much fluid.  Like really how can I still look this pregnant if I peed out so much fluid?  Did I really gain that much fat?

1-3 weeks

The first week being at home was interesting.  I was scared to poop as so many moms are.  However, since I took the stool softeners as advised by the hospital and moms out there everywhere it really wasn’t bad. What was bad was missing my dose of ibuprofen and realizing it mid-pee when it hurt real bad.  The first week is a blur between my nipples hurting/bleeding from breast feeding, my boobs being so engorged that I looked like Dolly, and wishing that I had a doughnut pillow to sit on.  Getting up and down from the sofa was super uncomfortable in my nether region.

At 2 weeks I thought…why am I STILL walking around like a sumo wrestler?  Why do steps suck?  Why does my toddler want me to pick him up…I just can’t my lady parts can’t handle it?  Why do my stitches feel exactly the same? Is any healing happening?  Why is sitting down and standing up so hard?  Am I bleeding too much?  I actually called the OB about this after reading about postpartum hemorrhaging.  I was told if it gets any worse or it doesn’t stop in the next couple of days come in/we will schedule a ultrasound.

3.5-8 weeks

At 3.5 weeks I felt better and my bleeding slowed down to where I could fall asleep and not fear I was going to wake up to me bleeding out somewhere.  Thank goodness!  Things finally started to feel better.  I didn’t have to walk like a sumo wrestler and some of my stitches felt like they had healed.  However, all of my stitches had not healed and I still needed to take ibuprofen for the pain.  Sitting was easier but occasionally I would feel like my stitches were being pulled.

4-5 weeks out I still felt the same as I did at 3.5 weeks.  At 6 weeks I felt sore sometimes when I walked but it wasn’t bad.

At my postpartum appointment (6 weeks) the OB said for the most part I had healed (no more stitches) but I still needed to wait 2 weeks to be back to normal.  Which translated to you can work out, take a bath, but you need to wait for hubby time.  I was also told that breastfeeding can make things take longer to heal because your body is focusing on making milk.

All in all if I had another baby I would still go the VBAC/no meds route.

 

Overdosed

One night I all of a sudden felt like I was going to get sick and started sweating profusely.  My stomach was hurting and I knew if I didn’t lay down I was going to be hugging the toilet.  When think about what could be wrong I could only think of two things…food poisoning or I had double dosed when I took my 600mg ibuprofen.

No one else was sick and we had all ate the same meals.  After thinking about it, I realized the most likely scenario was that I took my medicine at 8 & 9pm as the stomach pains/nausea started soon after what would have been my second dose.

This is very likely because at some point durning the early newborn stage I caught myself about to take 1200mg of ibuprofen.  In my sleepy state I was mixing up the dosage for Tylenol and ibuprofen.

Throwing the clothes out

When baby E was a few weeks old my son knocked over a drink and managed to soak his clothes and get a large portion of our living room floor wet and sticky.  I quickly cleaned up the mess with hands towels and got my toddler in new clothes.  Later while picking up I realized I threw the dirty towels and clothes in the trash can instead of the dirty laundry.  I would have never believed that I had managed to do that if I hadn’t found the clothes in the trash myself!

8 Things Parents do out of LOVE

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It is truly amazing how much a parent can love their child.  Parents know (or quickly find out) that you can’t be that tiny-bit-selfish-person that you were before you had kids.  This sort of validates every parents statement that their child has made them a better person.  With that said, there are some terrible, awful, disguising things that parents do because they love there child. I’m not sure it technically makes them a better person, but it does make them a wonderful parent. Read on for what parents will do for their child out of LOVE.

  1. Pull poop out of their child’s butt when they’re constipated.  It’s so unbelievably gross.  You have no idea.  But when your child is bent over and crying, you will do what it takes to make them better.
  2. Deal with snot.  Lots and lots of it.  Suctioning out mucus is stomach-wrenching.  The sound it makes. And occasionally you may have to pick boogers out of your child’s nose that are stuck.  Somehow wiping kids noses with tissues and baby wipes will not free every stubborn dried booger.  Again this makes me cringe all over.  By all means try a warm washcloth first.  But some times you have to pick it.  That’s real love folks.  Almost too real.
  3. Eat something that their child has already drooled on, dropped on the floor, or drank out of because they were being good and sharing.  

    Sharing is caring.

  4. Stay up all night singing, snuggling, reading, walking around, or watching movies because their child can’t/won’t sleep.
  5. Let their child watch TV when their favorite show or movie is on.
  6. Miss social functions because they don’t trust anyone to care for their child.
  7. Feed their child first, when they are starving.  Like can-barely-function-starving, and their child is eating at a snail’s pace.
  8. Research child products for hours because they heard that something “may be bad” or have a recall.

There are so many more things that could go on this list.  What are some things that you do as a parent out of love?

First Baby Pregnancy Timeline

So lately I’ve had babies on the brain.  My husband and I are almost ready to dive in and try for a second baby.  That got me thinking about being pregnant again and made me nostalgic.  Growing a baby is beautiful, crazy, wonderful, and at times miserable.  I am so glad I got to experience it.  So much so, I think I’m ready to do it again.  Here is my first baby pregnancy timeline:

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6 weeks:

I discovered I was pregnant.  I took a pregnancy test and it was positive.  That same week I also had a blood test done, to confirm it.  There is actually a funny story behind the picture above.  The first 2 test are mine and the last one is my husbands.  He was my control, it’s just the scientist in me to make sure the tests were working correctly.  P.S.  if you need a pregnancy test you can get them from the dollar store.  The above pregnancy tests came from dollar tree.  Much cheaper, just saying.

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10 weeks:

Morning sickness starts.  1st ultrasound/check-up.  I got to hear the babies heartbeat.  It was pretty cool.  This is when I got the first ultrasound picture that looked like a bean.  I was already so proud and in love.  Landon was about 1.5 inches long.

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14 weeks:

2nd ultrasound/check-up and beginning of 2nd trimester.  This ultrasound Landon looked like a real baby.  My husband and I cried so many tears of happiness watching him move around in my belly.  At this point I had gained ~3 pounds.

15 weeks:

 I had a tiny bump.  It wasn’t noticeable to anyone else but I could see it.

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17 weeks:

 I bought my first maternity clothes.  They were a little big but my normal clothes were starting to be a little uncomfortable.

18 weeks:

Morning sickness FINALLY went away!

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19 weeks:

Check-up time.  I was definitely showing and had gained 7 pounds.

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20-21 weeks:

Half-way point.  Gender Ultrasound.  We almost didn’t get to find out his sex because he didn’t want to expose his ‘area’.  We were so excited when we left the ultrasound.  We bought him his first toy, a stuffed alligator.

22 weeks:

We had his name picked out and his nursery painted.  I started nesting pretty much as soon as we knew he was a boy.  This week we also made our registry, it took all day.

nursery

23 weeks:

Another check-up.

26 weeks:

Surprise baby shower at work.

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28 weeks:

Beginning of 3rd trimester.

31 weeks:

Another check-up.  I had gained 24 pounds.

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32 weeks:

Baby shower #1

33 weeks:

Another check-up.  This week I discovered I was lactating.  That freaked me out quite a bit.  My husband and I also took a 10 hour birthing class that week.  It was fairly intense but got us somewhat prepared for the big day.

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35 weeks:

Baby shower #2.  Another check-up.  I had gained 29 pounds.

36 weeks:

Got my TDap vaccine.  I was determined to keep whooping-cough away.  I also made sure anyone that would be around the baby also had the vaccine.

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37 weeks:

Another check-up.  This week my hands started to swell.  This was the week I started to become really anxious.

38 weeks:

Another check-up.  I had gained 31 pounds.

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39 weeks:

Landon came this week.  Sadly, my labor was 37 hours.  Landon did not read the exit manual and tried to come out face first instead of head first.  Don’t worry though, it’s incredibly rare (less than 2% of births).

For information on what to buy preparing for baby, click here.

Guidelines for buying baby clothes

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Have you ever wanted to buy a birthday or Christmas present for a niece or nephew and had no clue what size to buy?  Sure, you know that they just turned one, but what size baby clothes does that translate to?  Are all baby brands sized the same?

I’m here to help.  Here’s some things to keep in mind…

  1. If clothes are slightly big, kids can grow into them.  So when it doubt get a size bigger and a gift receipt (in case you really miss the mark, and buy baby Timmy a Christmas onesie that wouldn’t fit until July).
  2. It’s best to let parents pick out the “baby’s first” outfits. This is one of those parent’s rights that turns out to be a “big deal.”  The first 4th of July, Birthday, Valentine’s Day, Halloween, Christmas, St. Patrick’s Day are important “firsts” outfits; ESPECIALLY if it’s someones first child.  By the second baby, things are more relaxed.
  3. Guideline #2 does not mean you can not buy holiday themed clothes.  Just DON’T buy the ones that say “Baby’s First _____” or “My First ____” on them.  Babies rocking red, white and blue or dressed like a pumpkin are adorable, so DO buy holiday themed outfits.
  4. For new parents, zippers are much easier that snaps.  So for sleep-n-plays which come with both zippers and snaps; buy the ones with zippers if the size you are buying is newborn or 0-3 months.  For those of you who don’t know what sleep-n-plays are…they are pajamas with the feet built-in.
  5. All baby sizes are not created equal.  Here are tips for sizing of popular baby brands.

Popular baby brands sizes

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In general, it is important to note that some babies skip the newborn size all together.  So if you are going to a baby shower, try to limit buying all the ridiculously cute, tiny newborn outfits (if the baby weights more than 7 pounds, it probably won’t fit).  For my son, he typically grew out of sizes a month early.  Which translates to….

He wore 0-3 month clothing until he was 2 months old.  Then they were too small and we bumped up to 6 month clothing.  At 5 months, he out grew his 6 month clothes.  So at 6 months, he was wearing 9 month clothes.  This trend stayed constant.  Now at almost 15 months he wears 18 month, 24 month, and even some 2T clothing.  In case you are wondering, he has always been average for his age in height and weight.

Baby sizing means “up to.”  Therefore, 6 month sized clothing is for “up to 6 months.” 9 month clothing is “up-to 9 months.”  Weird, I know.  Most babies follow the trend of being in bigger clothing than their age.  Babies born premature won’t fall into this category since they start off super tiny.

The second baby talk

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So a week ago my husband very sweetly and very seriously looked up at me and said, “I want to have another baby.” This was not surprising but still made me stop and be like-WHOAAA, am I ready for that? The truth is I have no idea. There are moments I think that I could have three little ones running around (crazy, right?). Then other moments I ask myself, “What have I gotten myself into?”  These moods usually correlate to how adorable Landon is being.

Sick/crying Landon= omg what was I thinking?

Cute/melt my heart Landon= aww how could I only have one baby?

Because I’m so on the fence about this and it’s a HUGE decision to bring a life into this world, I am considering a few things:

Do we make enough money to support a second child?

Can we pay for daycare for two kids or would I quit my job?

Is our house big enough for another person?

Is my body ready for all that again?

I still not sure what I want to do.  I think more than anything I’m scared of the morning sickness, heart burn, and feeling like a whale.  The pregnancy and first three months afterwards are the scary parts for me.  But if you take away that part (which is only a year, if you look at the big picture) I have no reason to not have another baby.  I will never forget how much I gained when I had my baby.  My life finally had a purpose.  The things that truly mattered became crystal clear.  I never knew my heart could hold so much love in it.  I remember being in awe that we created a little person.  Honestly, I am still amazed.  Every time my son learns something new it blows my mind.  He has now learned to climb on top of the coffee table and knows when we grab his shoes it’s time for a walk.

I want him to have at least one sibling.  I grew up with a brother and sister and they mean so much to me.  My childhood would not have been the same without them.  I know what side of the fence I’m leaning on, but am I brave enough to go through that crazy ride all over again?  There is a chance I might just be.

Anyone else on the fence?